Awareness of gender identity and expression has grown in recent years and its important for employers to understand how trans, non-binary, genderfluid or genderqueer employees can be affected by the use of incorrect pronouns and mis-gendering. Suki Sandhu looks at some of the small changes employers can make to be more inclusive.
The world is a very binary place. Speculation about our gender begins long before we’re born. Before we even learn to speak, we are taught words as pairs and opposites; at school we are split into boys and girls; in adulthood we are greeted as ladies and gentlemen. For many of you these terms may seem perfectly innocuous, but for those who are trans, gender non-binary, gender fluid or genderqueer, these words can be isolating and exclusive.
For the purpose of this article I’m going to use the term “trans” to encompass all of these groups – but it’s important to be aware that they are not one and the same.
Gender identity is a nuanced, unique construct, and one that needs to be respected for every individual. While some gender variant individuals identify as the umbrella term “trans”, others do not, and it’s important to bear this in mind.
In recent years, there has been an increased awareness of gender identity and expression in the media, popular culture and in business. It’s long been recognised that inclusive workplaces lead to better staff performance and ultimately profitability, but when it comes to matters of gender identity, workplaces are often falling short. It’s great to say that you’re an inclusive employer, but to deliver on that promise, you need a genuinely inclusive culture and HR infrastructure.
For the cisgender population – i.e. those whose gender identity matches the sex they were assigned at birth – the matter of titles and pronouns can seem very simple. In an increasingly “woke” world there has been significant progress, and many people would feel comfortable and confident discussing LGB matters. But when it comes to the T, we often fall at the first hurdle. And it’s this matter of titles and pronouns which often prove a stumbling block.
In the past, pronouns were as simple as he and she, but this left many people feeling isolated and uncomfortable identifying exclusively with either term. Many non-binary individuals choose to use the pronoun “they”. “They” provides the non-binary community a pronoun that comfortably aligns with their identities, and in 2019 was added to Merriam-Webster dictionary as a singular non-binary pronoun. This was one step on the road to debunking the common misconception that the term “they” as a singular is grammatically incorrect. In fact, the singular usage of “they” dates back to the 14th century. Other non-binary pronouns are ze, hir, co and cos, though these are less-commonly used and are yet become part of the mainstream vernacular.
While most people may feel able to discuss matters of gender, identity and appropriate vocabulary with friends or family, they may not feel as comfortable doing so in a work environment. And this can have a profound impact on the workplace environment that is cultivated.
Regardless of who we are addressing, we need to think before we speak and remember the context. Those in the trans community will have experienced a lifetime of explaining their identity. With the shocking statistics around transphobia and transphobic hate crime, it’s unfortunately highly likely that this won’t have been the easiest journey. What you may see as “just a word” is so much more than that. Every time they are mis-gendered feels like a step backwards, each micro-aggression taking a toll on their self-esteem, and even sometimes putting them in danger.
There are a few simple steps that organisations can take to ensure that at both a corporate and individual level, they are being inclusive to ALL staff:
- Look at any forms that your staff or customers have to fill in, whether physical or digital. Do you include the option for no title, or the non-binary title Mx?
Every time they are mis-gendered feels like a step backwards, each micro-aggression taking a toll on their self-esteem, and even sometimes putting them in danger.”
- Include pronouns on your corporate email signatures, for example First name Surname (she/hers). This small gesture normalises pronouns, and shows that you understand that gender is not a binary construct and that you shouldn’t make assumptions around the traditional gendering of a name. It can also be a helpful starting point for conversations around gender identity, and will signal to any prospective clients or employees that yours is an inclusive organisation.
- Don’t make assumptions. If you’re unsure of someone’s chosen pronouns, ask. We are often worried of causing offense; but it’s more offensive to wrongly presume. Asking someone their preferred pronouns should be as natural as asking someone their name or job title. If you feel uncomfortable simply asking, you can start by introducing your own pronouns, and if you make a mistake, apologise and move on.
- Learn and train. Ensure that all staff are familiar with non-binary pronouns and understand why they are included. Produce communications guides and trans-inclusive training, and provide safe spaces where staff can ask questions without fear of judgement.
Overall, as with any matter of inclusion, education and listening will go a long way. We’re not expecting everyone to know everything there is to know; however if we each take the time to learn, make some small adjustments and take an extra minute to think before we speak, we’ll go a long way to making our workplaces more welcoming to everyone.
This is a great initiative, and I fully support it. Could you add your contributors’ pronouns after their name too? Seeing pronouns on these pages also has an impact. Thank you.
Here’s a test on using non-binary pronouns: https://www.grammar-monster.com/lessons/using_non-binary_pronouns_examples_and_test.htm
The test was written to help with pronoun selection. (If any of the wording on the page needs a tweak, I’d appreciate feedback.)
Also of note, the rise of singular “they/their” in English grammar is to compensate for the lack of a gender-neutral singular possessive determiner that can be used for people. (That’s a long way of saying you can’t use “its” for people.) I agree that the LGBT community should ride that rise, but it’s worth saying it wasn’t for their benefit initially.